She explained how a priest molested her while in high school,
how bitter she was to herself and the reasons she couldn’t tell anyone
including her family who loves her so much. She later met another man in
life,
and the story repeated itself before finally meeting Peter of P-Square
and you all know how the story ended. Her words after the cut.
“You shouldn’t let your past determine what your destiny
will be, we all have our past whether good or bad or makes us unhappy, we all
had a life that we lived that we are not happy about, you shouldn’t let it
bother you from succeeding.
When I was a young girl in my early teens in high school, I
was molested by a catholic priest, i blamed myself, i didn’t tell anyone
because i was ashamed, couldn’t tell anyone cos
i felt everyone would blame me, so i carried on the guilt and bitterness
with me for years. I was filled with hate and i became a angry person, i was
rebellious, i didn’t want to listen to anybody…and because i wanted to be
expelled from school to avoid seeing this person, i would do so many terrible
things, everything around me was just so negative, i felt i wasn’t good
enough….
Anyway i moved on to the university, met the love of my life
and i’m like, okay this guy is cool, he loves me…and then he started to abuse
me….i was beaten black and blue all the time, in front of friends, in public
and at a point i felt, you know what I am
not worthy enough, there is nothing about me that is nice, nobody loves me but
i hid this from my family….i felt like a loser..so it was hard for me to
focus..so one day i woke up and said i am going to change my story and i dumped
that person, focus on my education and decided to be serious and be
something….i decided to get a job and go to school full time in America…
I worked hard…my parents were sending me money cos I didn’t
tell them i was working but i was working because i wanted to be independent…I
didn’t want to depend on any man or on my parents even though they would have
done anything for me…so i did all sorts of job, i was a make up artiste, i
worked in a cafe, school library, i did
so many things and i didn’t realise that these jobs were building me up as a
person, building my resume, my confidence….people began to like me because i
was adding value to their lives….at work i was excellent and so was i in school
and that built me as a strong woman…and at some point, i sought counseling to get
over my molestation issues where i was made to see reasons why i wasn’t at
fault cos i was a child then…today I am accomplished.
You can be whatever woman you want to be but you have to
believe in yourself, if they reject you today, it doesn’t mean you should let
your dreams die, you have something unique about you. Look at my husband, when
i met him peeps were like what are you doing with him, he has nothing but i
stood my ground and choose to stick with him cos he had a dream. He and his
twin brother did not let their dream die, they worked hard..look at them today!
I stuck by him cos he had focus and drive and today i am happy, i have a good
life, we are happy and we have got a beautiful family. No one can make you a
loser.”
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